Well hello girls, i was missing my blog and you, so I thought today would be a good day pop on over here and "write it out" so to speak. As I drive to work in the wee hours of the morning, besides longing for cuddles with my little man, I write blog posts in my head...call me pathetic or call me wordy, I am both, it's ok.
I wanted to take a moment to share a personal story with you, which if you are a long time reader this is no surprise as I have always tried to keep this blog as real as possible without divulging every little thing...ya know us girls, we have to have some secrets...{she smiles sheepishly}
A while back I shared my story about "My Castle", if you missed it, you can read it here ...When I spoke to Kim, who wrote the fantastic article in "Romantic Country" about my home, she explained that she would be sending me all kinds of questions, about me, about my house and about my little family. She needed me to tell her as much as possible...now obviously Kim doesn't know me so well, cause I am a tattered open book with folded and creased pages, waiting for someone to pick me up and read me. When I got her e-mail the information, the details, the nitty gritty came flooding out onto the page...
One of the questions stopped me in my tracks, when she asked, "Why I bought his house, and what do I love about this house?".... suddenly one of those crinkled pages with a coffee stain near the bottom of the page unfolded, and as I hit the send button, I knew I had told my story of why I bought this house, and what I loved about this house...but I also knew in the back of my mind these were not the kind of details you put into a magazine article, an article that is suppose to inspire others with pretty pictures and artsy crafty goodness...so I thought I would unfold my story to you here. What lies in between the pages of a pretty magazine, where personal is accepted and where I can be myself, 100%...and leave the pretty for the magazines!
When I found this house I was in a really ugly marriage, the kind of marriage you lie about, the kind of marriage you see in movies and when you leave the theater you ask yourself, how does any woman get caught up in a life like that?...the kind of marriage you hide from your family, friends and neighbors for fear of embarrassment. I was broken to my core, I was looking for anything to make my life better (tangible or non-tangible), to make my life complete, to take the pain away.
When I walked through the door of my "Castle" on a cold December day I felt it...the calmness, the saftey of being so close to my neighbors, the excitment that maybe this house would "save" me.... I was sold the moment I walked through the door. As my marriage fell apart about 2 months after I bought the house, I parted ways with a skeleton of a man who taught me many lessons in life, to whom this day his image makes me shake in my skin.
I found the freedom, I found the comfort, and the passion I was lacking in life in the walls of this home, my home.
I know you aren't suppose to find comfort, and passion in worldly possessions, but as I changed locks on my doors a few days later, and threw his leftover personal belongings into the trash, as I peeked out my front window in the morning light to make sure I was safe from my old life, I learned to sleep with just myself and two furr babies, and I slowly learned who I was...uncovered a tattered soul, found a loving heart, and every day my life grew more beautiful in this house, in my "castle".
Over the 6 years I have lived in this house, I have moved, painted, re-arranged, sold and unmasked any memory of my old life, accept for one small train case that holds my "wedding" memories....this house has been my saving grace. I have put so much of me into this house...that when my friends walk in, most of them look around and say, "Tara, I can't define your style, but this house is so YOU..." and they are right.
It is me...and my Castle now holds all those worldly possessions that saved me, but it also holds, two precious souls that have been the cherry on top of the ice cream sundae...the pool man and my punk. My house, my "Castle" is no longer filled with tears, but with laughter, silliness, times of complete silence, times of comforted sadness, and times of acceptable joy...that has far surpassed my wildest dreams.
So many of you put so much of yourself into your homes, so much of your passion lies in decorating, and moving furniture from one room to the next, in painting walls 4 different shades of the same color to make sure the color you choose is just right, only to change it a year later. So many of you have the same love, the same content feeling in your home, and when I read your blogs, when I read your stories, I melt, because in so many ways we are all the same...looking for love, longing for contentment, and a place of refuge for ourselves and our loved ones.
I have my place of refuge now, I have a place where I completely feel like me...I love being at home with my family...I love being in my "Castle"...and I am learning every day to love being in the skin that surrounds my heart...and finishing this tattered book of life with all the gritty details that fill in the blanks in between the pretty pictures.
An answer like this is not magazine appropriate, it is not what people want to read....however, I had to share a snippet of my story, because it was such an honor to have my home featured in a magazine...but it was more of an honor to know that life, my life started over over in the same home that held secrets and lies, and failure....and that one folded coffee stained page, can turn into a novel, that in the end is your life story, printed in a magazine with pretty pictures or stowed away in a dusty side drawer, it doesn't matter its all worth sharing.
And celebrating!!!
So make sure you celebrate every moment, every accomplishment, every written and folded page in your story...life is meant to be shared and loved...do it with all you have in you.
After all, what do you have to loose?
And to think you came here to see pretty pictures of a baby's nursery and re-done room for our punk...but alas you got a mouth full...
Shame on me...but you should have known better!
Muwahhh ha ha ha ha!
Blessings from this momma to you~

P.S. our baby punk is doing good, thriving and growing big...he parties all day and sleeps all night...
And as much as I tell my big punk he is having a brother he stills tells everyone he is having a sister...
I think he will be in for a surprise when the baby comes!
oh the innocence of a child, it kills me sometimes!
{image found here}